Let our lives be full of Thanks and Giving.
Happy Thanksgiving!
Holidays with Blended Families can be tricky. We have chosen to celebrate the holidays in our own way: Holidays are more about gathering together as a family and that it is about feelings not a specific day or presents. If it’s handled with the children in mind, they will love multiple days to share their love with all their parents and extended family. It becomes too hard on kids to split the actual day between parents and creates anxiety, so we chose not to go that path and forge our own way.
This week, Alex and I planned our Thanksgiving time with all 3 girls early in the week. We spent 2 days playing, making pom-pom noses to give fuzzy nose kisses, harvest candles, gingerbread cookies, and had screaming monkey animal races in the front yard. It was about Time and Family. The girls haven’t been all together for this long amount of time in over a month and they needed each other. You could tell that they had missed being with each other with all the lovin’ going around: Zola lovin’ on Mina, Allegra and Mina snuggling together in bed, and ALL OF THEM SHARING with each other! THAT is something to be grateful for!
“Holidays, families, divorce ” can seem like words that create angst in a parent as to what to do. It doesn’t have to be if the holiday is child centric rather than parent Ego-centric. Does it really matter if your child spends the actual Day with you or is it the Time you spend with the child. It’s time to put the children first because they need to still believe in magic, love and Santa Claus.