I remember
when I first changed my “status” on Facebook from “married” to “single.” I got a ton of responses: likes, well wishes, etc. However, friends whom I hadn’t seen since high school didn’t know what to say. They wanted to support me in the way I needed it.
People wanted to wish me well, but didn’t have the right words. Usually in such life changing circumstances, one would turn to Hallmark to find just the right card with just the right words to make everything better.
That night, I went out with my friend to Caputo’s to enjoy some jazz on their patio.
I asked Laura over our third glass of wine, what do you say to the other person at the finality of a marriage? Congratulations? No. I’m Sorry? No. Is there a Hallmark card for this? Probably not…Thanks for the memories? Um…not really. Does it just go unsaid as we step over it to the other side? ~ page 236, Mostly Happy: A Stay at Home Mom’s Journey through Divorce.
Come to find out, there is no section in Hallmark that deals with divorce, but people do celebrate a divorce’s finality with a party. For inspiration, Pinterest is your place. It was sad for me to scroll through the various ways people mark this transition. Yes, there is closure, but you don’t have to be cruel. I had no idea that there is a market for divorce cakes and party favors. Here are a few that I found. I found them funny for a second, but uncomfortable at such angry feelings behind them. For me, personally, I think I like quietly crossing over the threshold from marriage into divorce: Honoring the past and stepping forward into the future.