Your value cannot be measured in dollars and cents. What you provide to others is immeasurable and incalculable.
You are important and loved because you have so much love to give.
But, you see, I know you because I am you. I can see into those thoughts that de-value your self worth and belittle your influence.
There is an internal scanning mechanism in your brain that can quickly scan and assess what needs to be done, bought, or taken care of.
Hands on your hips, deep breathe in, you breathe out the words, first whispering How can I do this? … with strong resolve I can do this!
Forgetting what you actually need to do to maintain you, you dive head first into the pool of To-Do’s, taking care of everyone else.
I can take care of me later, you tell yourself. Does “later” ever come? Remember, I know you thoughts because I am a mom too.
I just have a quick question for you to ponder. In addition to teaching your children so many wonderful life lessons, what lesson is unconsciously being taught to them when you don’t take time for you or value yourself?
- How will that affect your daughters and how they value themselves?
- How will that affect your sons and their expectations of the women they will marry?
- What’s the one thing you can do now that values you and your worth? Is it taking that break to sit outside in the sun with some tea?
- How difficult is it to say: Mommy needs a “Mommy-break” and will take some quiet time in the sun with her tea.
- How hard is it to set boundaries and respect in others with regards to your time and your needs?
There is this video circulating today about The Toughest Job in the world. Have you listened to it yet? How quick did you realized which job they were referring to. I bet pretty quick because you know.
It was really hard for me because I like to care for others and my girls, to take time for myself. I actually have to put it into my daily agenda so it’s there, blinking red, reminding me.
I make sure I make my hair appointments (and keep them), lunch dates with friends, and tea time with a book. It’s hard. As a mom, I am so used to making sure everyone else is happy and smiling that I forget about what would make me smile.
After making the plan for the week, I go over it with Mina. She may be only 7, but I want her to be aware of what are the family priorities and what are my priorities, then ask her for her priorities. In this open communication, all our needs have an importance and respect. There is give and take, compromise and revisions. We communicate, express, and listen.
In this way, I am able to be Super Woman. I recognize my powers and apply them evenly.