Divorcee cafe days come and go each month. I am still a bit haunted by one woman who bravely came in, not knowing what to expect, and quietly sat, not really being able to speak to anyone. You see, she was in so much pain that talking would bring the tears.
It probably took all her courage to walk in.
I watched her a bit as she sat. She had quiet little tears just dripping down her cheeks.
I asked her if she wanted to go somewhere and talk. She shook her head No.
I asked if I could come sit next to her…she shook her head Yes.
I asked her if I could give her a hug…and she let me.
She let go and cried.
I hugged her as long as she needed me to and just as quietly, she got up and left.
She needed to feel that she mattered.
That’s why I have Divorcee cafe. It’s why we all show up every month. Because it’s so important to feel like you matter, that you are safe, and there are people who love you even if they have no idea who you are.
Do you know what? That woman came back..a year later, smiling. She wanted to let me know she was ok now. The day she came in was the day of her divorce and she was a mess. She wanted to tell me she was happy again and was so grateful we were there for her, even if she never said a word. Now, she wants to offer her services to others at Divorcee Cafe.
This is how we break the cycle of divorce and create something new. It’s unconditional love. When you come to see us, we will love you and hug you and accept you just as you are…just like that. Sometimes, that’s all you need to feel worthy after leaving such difficult marriages.
We will be here for you too…when you are ready to come.